Mortgage advice: Should you 'marry the house, date the rate'?
Thereâs a popular strategy (and a well-worn adage) for dealing with todayâs higher mortgage rates: Marry the house, date the rate. But is it right for you?
Thereâs a popular strategy (and a well-worn adage) for dealing with todayâs higher mortgage rates: Marry the house, date the rate. But is it right for you?
Thereâs a popular strategy (and a well-worn adage) for dealing with todayâs higher mortgage rates: Marry the house, date the rate. But is it right for you?
Aly J. Yale is a contributing writer for Hearst, focusing largely on housing, real estate, and mortgages. She loves demystifying these sometimes complex topics and helping consumers make informed decisions about their finances. In her 15 years as a professional writer and editor, her work has been published in Forbes, Buy Side from the Wall Street Journal, Business Insider, Money, CBS News, US News & World Report, Fortune, and The Miami Herald. She has a bachelorâs degree in radio-TV-film and news-editorial journalism from the Bob Schieffer College of Communication at Texas Christian University and is a member of the National Association of Real Estate Editors. She lives by her reward-earning credit card and is holding onto her 2.75% mortgage rate for dear life.
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have been steadily rising since early last year. According to Freddie Mac, the average rate on a 30-year mortgage is now almost 7% â more than double the rate seen at the start of 2022.
Those rates have undoubtedly made buying a home more expensive. In fact, according to the Mortgage Bankers Association, the median mortgage payment is now $2,162 â up 14% from a year ago and difficult for many homebuyers to .
Still, itâs all in how you frame it. If you take the popular âmarry the house, date the rateâ approach, experts say those higher rates might not seem all that bad.
What exactly does this approach entail, though? Hereâs what you need to know.
What does âmarry the house, date the rateâ mean?
âMarry the house, date the rateâ is a popular saying these days, thanks to higher interest rates. Essentially, itâs the idea that when you buy a house in , you focus on finding the perfect fit â a home you love and want to tie yourself to for the long haul (like a marriage).
But your rate? Thatâs something you approach as only temporary â someone youâd date but never really commit to.
âThis strategy suggests that you should prioritize finding the right home that meets your long-term needs and preferences, rather than getting overly fixated on the current interest rates,â says Luis Carlos Perez, founder of Center Real Estate in El Paso, Texas. âIn other words, focus on the characteristics of the property itself, as it's a long-term commitment, while considering interest rates as a variable that can change over time.â
The key component of the âmarry the house, date the rateâ approach is . If you choose this strategy, youâd take todayâs interest rates as a necessary evil, and then your mortgage down the line â once rates fall and youâre done âdatingâ that initial rate.
When is it smart to âmarry the house, date the rateâ?
Taking the âmarry the house, date the rateâ approach can be a smart strategy as long as you follow two simple rules: First, make sure your payment is one you can comfortably afford for the foreseeable future. Thereâs always the chance that rates wonât drop soon, so make sure you arenât overextending yourself or putting your home at risk of foreclosure.
âIf you find the home of your dreams at a good price then it is always the right time to buy if you can afford the mortgage payment,â says Melissa Cohn, regional vice president at William Raveis Mortgage. âIt is not a good idea if the payments are so high that it is unaffordable.â
Second, you need to get the home at a . This will not only help offset the cost of those higher rates (at least slightly), but itâs also the one variable you canât go back on.
As Robert R. Johnson, an author and professor of finance at Creighton University, explains, âYou have the option to renegotiate your mortgage rate if rates fall, but you can't renegotiate the purchase price.â
When shouldnât you âmarry the house, date the rateâ?
Dating the rate isnât a good idea if youâre in a particularly hot . This likely means youâll pay an inflated price for your home â on top of those already high mortgage rates.
âIt might be ill-advised to strictly follow this strategy if you are on a tight budget and the current interest rates are exceptionally high,â Perez says. âExtremely high rates can significantly impact your monthly mortgage payments and overall affordability.â
Itâs also not smart if you donât plan to stick around for a while. While refinancing can help you take advantage of lower rates later on, it does come with fees. To break even on those fees, youâll need to be in the home long enough to save more than they cost you. (For example, if the refinance costs you $5,000 and saves you $100 per month, youâll need to stay in the home for 50 months to make the move worth it).
Other ways to deal with higher mortgage rates
Rolling over for todayâs high mortgage rates isnât your only option if you want to buy a home in todayâs market. For one, you can explore alternative mortgage products. While rates on 30-year loans might be near 7%, there are plenty of other that offer lower rates.
, for example, usually offer much lower interest rates for the first few years of the loan, and then the rate adjusts annually or every six months. These can be smart if you know youâll only be in the home for a few years and will sell before the rate can move upward.
Shorter-term loans, like 10- and , also have lower rates. Right now, the current 15-year mortgage rate is just 6.34%, according to Freddie Mac.
Another option is to buy . Also called buydowns, these essentially allow you to pay an upfront fee in exchange for a lower interest rate. Sometimes, the seller, your agent, or even the lender may pay for these.
Finally, think about buying a lower-priced house or making a bigger . This reduces your loan balance and, many times, will qualify you for a lower rate (because the lender has less money on the line with your loan).
âIncreasing the size of your down payment holds the potential to lower the overall loan amount, and could counteract the potential impact of elevated interest rates on your monthly mortgage payments,â Perez says.
Will mortgage rates go down soon?
Thereâs no way to tell for sure if mortgage rates will drop, but â at least in the next few years. Cohn expects rates to be lower within the next 12 to 24 months. Fannie Mae, the National Association of Realtors, and the Mortgage Bankers Association (MBA) agree, too.
MBA predicts the average rate on 30-year mortgages will fall below 5% by the end of 2024, while Fannie Maeâs projection is a 5.9% average by that time. NAR predicts a slightly higher 6% rate.
It all will depend on inflation and the actions in response to it. If inflation stays high and the Fed continues to increase its benchmark rate, mortgage rates could increase even further. If inflation cools and the Fed stops its rate hikes or reduces its rate altogether, mortgage rates could fall.
The bottom line
For now, mortgage rates are still pretty high â especially compared to the record-low rates we saw a few years ago. And while the âmarry the house, date the rateâ approach will work for some homebuyers, itâs not the right move for everyone.
Always talk to a mortgage professional or financial advisor if youâre not sure what is best for your finances. And if you do opt for the âdate the rateâ strategy, make sure youâre comfortable with the rate and payment you qualify for upfront. Though refinancing may be an option later on, thereâs no guarantee rates will drop while youâre in the home. Make sure you can afford the initial payment comfortably â just in case you get stuck with it.
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